Too Busy to Feel: Why Constant Activity Might Be Hiding What’s Really Going On

Too busy to feel? Learn how avoiding emotions hides behind packed schedules — and how therapy can help you slow down, check in, and start feeling again.

The Perfectionism Trap: Why So Many Young Adults Struggle to Let Go of “Perfect”

If you’re a young adult struggling with perfectionism, you’re not alone. That pressure to be flawless, to have everything figured out, to always be “on” – it’s a heavy load to carry. And while striving for excellence can be a beautiful thing, perfectionism can slowly drain the joy and meaning from your life.

The Real Reason Couples Argue {and it’s not what you think}

As a couples therapist, I see the same patterns over and over again — partners arguing about the thing, when the thing isn’t the problem. In my latest blog, I explain the deeper emotional drivers of conflict and what actually helps couples repair. If you’re ready for deeper, more effective conversations in your relationship, I’m here to help. Learn more @shelbycastile.com ~♡

Why AI Can’t Replace Therapy: A Psychotherapist’s Perspective

As technology continues to evolve, it's important to remember that healing happens in relationship—not just in conversation. If you're feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or simply ready to explore therapy with someone who sees the whole you, I’m here to help. I’ll always advocate for human-to-human therapy. Licensed professionals are trained, regulated, and committed to your well-being in a way no AI ever can be.

When Your Mind Won’t Slow Down 🧠 Strategies to Regulate an Overactive Mind

Racing thoughts can feel incredibly isolating—but they’re more common than we think. Talking about them, normalizing them, and having tools to manage them is a powerful form of self-compassion. If you struggle with racing thoughts, I want you to know: you’re not broken. You’re not failing. You’re human. And there are ways to find calm—even if just one breath at a time.

Navigating Grief: A Personal Reflection ♡♡

For those of us in the helping profession, we often witness others’ pain, but when it becomes personal, we’re forced to navigate the same emotional terrain we guide our clients through. It’s a humbling reminder that no amount of knowledge or training can fully prepare us for the depth of loss. Grief has a way of bringing us together in our shared humanity, yet it can also feel incredibly isolating.

Social Media Intensity, Social Connection, and Wellbeing: Finding Balance in a Digital World

Social media is a double-edged sword. While it has the power to foster connection and community, its intense use can also negatively impact well-being. By being mindful of our social media habits and prioritizing authentic connections, we can harness its benefits without falling prey to its downsides.

Supporting Someone After a Wildfire: What to Say and Do

Avoid phrases like “At least you’re safe” or “Everything happens for a reason,” which can unintentionally dismiss their pain. Your presence, understanding, and practical help can make a big difference in their recovery process.

Why Prioritizing Mental Health in 2025 is the Best Resolution You Can Make

Mental well-being enhances how you connect with others. When you feel grounded and balanced, you’re better equipped to nurture relationships, resolve conflicts, and show up authentically. By prioritizing your mental health, you create space for deeper, more meaningful connections in 2025.

Overcoming Impostor Syndrome: A Guide to Recognizing Your True Worth

Impostor syndrome doesn’t define you—it’s simply a pattern of thoughts that can be unlearned. By acknowledging your worth, reframing your self-perception, and embracing your successes, you can break free from the impostor trap and step into your true potential.