When Public Scandal Reveals Private Pain- The Coldplay Concert Couple

A romantic moment at a Coldplay concert turned into a viral betrayal — but the real story is emotional disconnection, something many couples quietly face. In this post, I explore how relationships unravel over time, why affairs often begin long before they’re visible, and how therapy can help couples rebuild connection.

The Perfectionism Trap in Marriage and Parenting

When you begin showing up more authentically in your family relationships, something beautiful happens. Your vulnerability gives others permission to be vulnerable too. Your acceptance of imperfection creates space for everyone to relax and be themselves. Your willingness to prioritize connection over perfection models healthy relationship skills for your children.

Too Busy to Feel: Why Constant Activity Might Be Hiding What’s Really Going On

Too busy to feel? Learn how avoiding emotions hides behind packed schedules — and how therapy can help you slow down, check in, and start feeling again.

The Perfectionism Trap: Why So Many Young Adults Struggle to Let Go of “Perfect”

If you’re a young adult struggling with perfectionism, you’re not alone. That pressure to be flawless, to have everything figured out, to always be “on” – it’s a heavy load to carry. And while striving for excellence can be a beautiful thing, perfectionism can slowly drain the joy and meaning from your life.

The Real Reason Couples Argue {and it’s not what you think}

As a couples therapist, I see the same patterns over and over again — partners arguing about the thing, when the thing isn’t the problem. In my latest blog, I explain the deeper emotional drivers of conflict and what actually helps couples repair. If you’re ready for deeper, more effective conversations in your relationship, I’m here to help. Learn more @shelbycastile.com ~♡

Why AI Can’t Replace Therapy: A Psychotherapist’s Perspective

As technology continues to evolve, it's important to remember that healing happens in relationship—not just in conversation. If you're feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or simply ready to explore therapy with someone who sees the whole you, I’m here to help. I’ll always advocate for human-to-human therapy. Licensed professionals are trained, regulated, and committed to your well-being in a way no AI ever can be.

When Your Mind Won’t Slow Down 🧠 Strategies to Regulate an Overactive Mind

Racing thoughts can feel incredibly isolating—but they’re more common than we think. Talking about them, normalizing them, and having tools to manage them is a powerful form of self-compassion. If you struggle with racing thoughts, I want you to know: you’re not broken. You’re not failing. You’re human. And there are ways to find calm—even if just one breath at a time.